Resources to make your angel's birth go as smoothly as possible.
Birth Plan Template (Early Induction/Medical Termination)
This is a copy of the birth plan that we put together for April's early induction. This is free for you to download and adjust to your needs.
We had a team of people at the hospital creating keepsakes for us. It was amazing. These are our favorite items that we look at all the time.
3D Prints Baby Casting Kit - Mold and Cast Infant Foot and Hand (Pearl)
One of our favorite keepsakes are the 3D molds we have of April's hands and feet.
Willow Tree Angel's Embrace, sculpted hand-painted figure
This Willow Tree figuring was gifted to me from another mom that has lost a baby. I treasure it. I've gifted this to first time moms that had to go through tfmr as well. It's beautiful.
Custom Angel Necklace- Shop @ Terminations Remembered
Have your angel's name engraved on a necklace to hold close to your heart.
MOM Customizable Angel Shirt - Shop @ Terminations Remembered
Add your angel's name to this custom MOM shirt. DAD, and other options also available.
There are so many things that happen after a child dies. This is a list of resources to make dealing with the process go more smoothly.
Memorial Service- Maryland State Anatomy Board
Through Hopkins, we were able to donate April's body to the Maryland State Anatomy Board. Every year, they hold a memorial service and spread the ashes of all bodies that were donated in their memorial garden. It was perfect and we were glad to have a memorial service to attend.
Brain and Tissue Bank
The brain and tissue bank is where we were able to donate part of April's remains. It meant the world to us to have her life give back to scientific advancement and research. The brain and tissue bank at the University of MD accepts babies with a variety of different diagnoses.
Ways to Honor Your Angel
These resources are ideas of ways to honor your special angel.
Talking to Other People About Your Angel
Talking to other people about a child that died can be difficult. Difficult for us, and difficult for them. It is even harder to talk about the choice to terminate. Here, you'll find my experiences with this.
I'll say this... not every situation is different, and not every person is worthy of my time to explain. There are times I do and times I don't. It 100% depends on how important the person I'm talking to is to me...
Everything grief related will be posted here. My grief roller coaster, and any grief resources I find.
Grieving Our Daughter- No One Knows How to Navigate the Storm for Themselves
There's this storm that keeps hitting. Over. And over. And over. Each time it feels different and raw. Each time it feels harder and I feel weak.
It's been 2.5 months since we held our daughter in our arms. 2.5 months since we had to say goodbye forever.
Family Trip to the Beach (Ocean City, MD) Winter 2017
Then I looked down. There was a black seashell. It was perfect. As I reached down for it, it was a reminder that April was there on that walk with me. In all the blackness and grief that is in my life, there is fullness. There is happiness.
The Day I Gave In To My Grief: I Served Peach Cobbler and Ice Cream for Breakfast
The acceptance part of my grief was the hardest. For me the hardest part wasn't when we lost April, but when we found out we'd lose her.
Moms- Finding Time To Grieve After The Death Of A Loved One
6 Things You Can Do To Help Yourself Find the Time To Grieve. It's so hard to grieve when you are a mom. There is no time. But it is so important to find the time.
To The First Time Mom Who Made The Heartbreaking Choice To Spare Her Baby Pain
I know you don't have little toes to kiss at night, and sweet baby kisses to get your face all wet. I know you don't have cries to tend to. And I know you are a mom.
A Letter to the Woman in the Waiting Room
I really tried hard to smudge the mascara off my cheeks. I took deep breaths trying to get some colour back in my face which was white with shock. I straighten out my skirt and blouse, as if being well presented was going to make the conversation I was about to have easier.
Resources about Specific Diagnoses
As I come into contact with useful resources regarded specific conditions that our sweet babies are diagnosed with, I plan to post them here.
A Research Project About Trisomy 13 & April Rey's Story
At the beginning of January, I was contacted through my blog. I woke up to the following request, and my heart was so full of joy...
"I have been researching cytogenetic disorders and have recently come across one in particular that I want to learn more about: trisomy 13, Patau syndrome."
Induction and D&E Information
Here you will find a variety of resources and stories about inductions and D&E's as you make your choice for your path.
Prolife vs Prochoice
Just a few posts to consider and share with friends and family as you go down this journey. Unfortunately, there are politics involved. Many just don't understand. My hope is that these posts can just help others wrap their heads around our "choice".
Pro-life or Pro-choice? Did April's Story Make You Change Your View? Think About New Circumstances?
Many pro-life readers and friends and family supported us through our decision. These are some questions to consider.
When Our Daughter Was Given a Death Sentence, We Were Given a "Choice"
An explanation of our 4 choices- all would have a fatal outcome. Why we chose to induce early.
I Knew I'd NEVER Get An Abortion, But Life Had Other Plans
Fast forward to my second pregnancy, and I again knew this fact about abortion to be truth.
Except this time something happened...
This time I found myself down a path that would terminate our daughter's life. My truth as I'd known it went out the window and I am now medically considered to have had an abortion.