Thank you so much for being here. As a friend or family of someone that is considering termination of a desired pregnancy for medical reasons, you play an important role.
The fact that you are here, shows what an incredible support system you are and will be to your loved one. So thank you.
This is a lonely and isolating decision to come through, and it is so hard to go through.
We get through it, but it is so incredibly helpful to have support from people like you.
This is a list of things NOT to say, along with several helpful things to do and say for your loved one.
It is ok to feel grief if you are not directly impacted. It is important to be there for your friend/family member, however. Here are several ways you can be there while still experiencing the grief yourself.
5 things to say and do DURING your friend's pregnancy, and 5 things to say and do after the pregnancy. This is a must read.
Letters Written By Friends & Family
A letter to April Rey from the photographer that dropped everything to come capture her short time on this earth.
A note from my mom about how we had to leave the hospital empty handed, without our sweet April Rey.
This is a letter that April's auntie and uncle wrote for her. I hope this letter was healing for them to write, as it was such a wonderful tribute to our daughter.
Useful Posts for Friends & Family to Read
These posts may be useful for friends and family of parents going through medical terminations to take a look at.
I am not usually political at all. Unfortunately, everything about our decision to terminate for medical reasons is POLITICAL, however. I am genuinely curious how April's story has impacted other's views.
An explanation of our 4 choices- all would have a fatal outcome. Why we chose to induce early.
Fast forward to my second pregnancy, and I again knew this fact about abortion to be truth.
Except this time something happened...
This time I found myself down a path that would terminate our daughter's life. My truth as I'd known it went out the window and I am now medically considered to have had an abortion.