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For some, natural pregnancy is the hardest game of chance, the most terrifying roll of the dice life has to offer. It is walking into every pregnancy with the reality that you may have to put an end to it all. For those individuals termination is not a one time risk… it is something faced…

I became aware of a shop on etsy (LilMommaCrafts) that makes weighted birth dolls. As a mom of a baby that is no longer here, the thought of holding a doll that is the same weight, and same size as her felt like it would bring some comfort- especially for our older daughter, Caroline, who…

Quarantine brought silence and stillness to our usually hoppin’ party town. Suddenly in late March there was no cumbia music, no hippie drum circle, no karaoke quinciñera party pumping out the jams. Our pueblo shut its doors and we retreated into our homes. It was the exact silence that I had begged and pleaded for…

My sister makes stockings for everyone in the family. It’s been her little tradition for years now. So, every time a new baby is born, that baby gets a stocking. Heck, every time a new dog is brought into the family, he/she gets a stocking as well! Life for my sister has gotten busy. She…

When your baby dies before you even get the chance to hold them or see them move or open their eyes, you aren’t just losing your baby- you are losing the future plans you had. You are losing the first smile, first step, first Christmas- first everything. With every good moment comes a sad one,…

Ideas had been thrown out there about our daughter’s diagnosis. At first it was an increased risk of Down Syndrome. Then the cell free DNA test came back with an increased risk of trisomy 13, not trisomy 21. And as I sat there talking with the doctor about our options, my mind raced. He’d mentioned…

Dear woman in the waiting room,  It was July of last year when our paths crossed. I don’t know your name. But I remember what you were wearing. I remember what I was wearing. I remember the colour of your hair. The way you were sitting with your legs crossed. Your nervous excitement. You were…

Dear Mama, ​I see you.  I see the trauma on your face. The sadness and grief that hits so hard you can’t breathe. I see your empty arms and your empty belly.  I see the motherhood role that is all consuming you, yet is ever so silent to the world without your baby in your…

Moms- finding time to grieve after the death of a loved one. Here are 6 ways you can help yourself find the time to grieve. This post originally appeared at BabywiseMom.com in August of 2018. I wrote this as a guest post, 1 year after I’d lost April Rey. These are some of the things that…